So what’s the difference when someone says to you “I am going to therapy”, or “I am seeing a counselor” or “I am doing therapy” or yet again “I am seeking counseling”. With over 400 official therapeutic modalities recognised by some federation or other institution just in the field of mental health, there can be no shortness of confusion among...
Read MoreAll therapists in this world, whatever the instrument or modality of their work, aim at improving the wellness of their clients. Whether we do so by allowing the unspeakable to be spoken and verbalized, or the untouchable to be touched and sensed in the body, or the unfeelable to be felt and cried out, we all work to improve the wellbeing of our...
Read MoreIf you ever thought of having suffered a relational trauma, particularly in your childhood, entertaining the thought of having been a victim of abuse would have come along with it. Let's have a look at some of the ways in which identifying with the position of being a victim can have negative repercussions on our
Read MoreI had a customer once asking me this question within their first few minutes of talk-therapy with me: “Is my self-diagnosed trauma condition a mistake Nicolas? Or not?”. Not knowing much about this person I took a step back and said: “If your self-diagnosis has allowed you to feel like you are more in control of your own future, then this is not...
Read MoreIn all admittance, the first thing to say here is that a bad therapeutic alliance can occur and it can be re-traumatizing. That’s the worst scenario, but I believe this happens rarely compared to the number of good therapy alliances and sessions that occur daily in the world. Of course, these more rare events are the ones that make the news. The...
Read MoreSo… when we collect all of the studies done to date and run what we call a meta-analysis, we find that no modality has any significant advantage over another. Absolutely none! “WHAT????”, you may be asking. And “Yes!”, the truth is that since the 1950s research has been conducted to establish which, among the 400 official talk-therapy out there,...
Read MoreWe continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: SEEKING RECONNECTION Inviting Mom’s Presence I: I have pictures of her with me, so I can show them! T: Yes, if you’re willing to show her. I: So I have a picture of her [shows a framed black-and-white photo].
Read MoreWe continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: WHEN SAFETY WAS LOST. An Internal Dialogue T: That’s interesting [whispered]. Just placing your attention near but not in that kind of watery expansive place, not drowning in it, but just sort of standing on the shore, I wonder if you would be willing to listen to it? Listening to...
Read MoreWe continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: AN INTERNAL DIALOGUE. Holding the Feeling I: Yeah. So there are things that most of the time, I should say, when I’m thinking of her, it makes me positive. It’s more the feeling that comes when I don’t invite it to. [Wipes
Read MoreThis blog post will walk you through a couple counseling process, and hopefully allow you to imagine how this process might apply to yourself. If you want to listen or download the audio version of this post follow this link. INITIAL CONTACT In this case, since I work alone, your first contact will be directly with me, the therapist, but just so...
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