If you ever thought of having suffered a relational trauma, particularly in your childhood, entertaining the thought of having been a victim of abuse would have come along with it. Let's have a look at some of the ways in which identifying with the position of being a victim can have negative repercussions on our
Read MoreIf you are reading this, you have already kick-started your therapy! So before reading ahead, give yourself a pat on the shoulder. As psychotherapists and counselors we know that the client’s willingness to address their struggle, search for someone, and take contact is already a great sign of positive change, the very same change we will call...
Read MoreIn this blog we cover a therapeutic process focused on grief. The hope of these blog posts is to offer those who need therapeutic help, an opportunity to see how a therapeutic process can unfold, and by this allow some level of resonance with the process of healing. The present case concerns Inge and Erik, a Flemish couple in their 40s living in...
Read MoreWe continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: WHEN SAFETY WAS LOST. T: That’s interesting [whispered]. Just placing your attention near but not in that kind of watery expansive place, not drowning in it, but just sort of standing on the shore, I wonder if you would be willing to listen to it? Listening to anything that has to...
Read MoreChildren always blame themselves for environmental failures, for failing to complete secure attachment with their primary carers, even when it is completely irrational. “I deserve this” becomes the default position for children, and this stays with them at an unconscious level into adulthood. When a very young child starts off feeling profoundly...
Read MoreWhen thinking of traumatic experiences we are often drawn to images of tragic car accidents, brutal war killings, or major natural disasters, but while these are undoubtedly traumatizing events, and induce shock traumas, trauma responses can be induced with as little as a child being lost in a supermarket. This is why, in trauma-specialist Dr....
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