I had a customer once asking me this question within their first few minutes of talk-therapy with me: “Is my self-diagnosed trauma condition a mistake Nicolas? Or not?”. Not knowing much about this person I took a step back and said: “If your self-diagnosis has allowed you to feel like you are more in control of your own future, then this is not...
Read More"I am using you! I am using your human embedded escapist drives, to sell you the idea that there might be a quick fix to all your suffering! YES, a fictitious way out of this shithole is what I am trying to sell you my friend! And I am not the only one!" Psychedelic research and videos about psychedelics are inflating at rapid speed due to the...
Read MoreThe birth of psychology as a branch of modern science is often attributed to Sigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology who theorised that much of humanity’s inner misery came not from the Devil’s temptations, but from the monstrous natural urges that we unconsciously
Read MoreFor Rebecca Campbell, Emily Dworkin, and Giannina Cabral self-blame in victims of sexual abuse is the product of a systemic interaction between micro and macro levels of reality. The implication of their ecological model is that for curbing and/or preventing the traumatizing effects of sexual assault, the individual-level factors (e.g.,...
Read MoreFor children of Holocaust and Russian Gulags survivors academic research has observed symptoms which would be expected if they had actually lived through the Holocaust themselves, such as a characteristic difficulty in distinguishing between reality and fantasy. This difficulty, a by-product of the lost capacity to produce symbolic...
Read MoreConditioned behaviours learned early in life can hold back our chances to form relationships of a healing nature. There was one principal theme I explored in the video "The books we hardly ever read", and that was the process of meeting new others. In that particular video I paused on the novel opportunities for bonding and intimacy that new...
Read MoreIt’s the environment that really does the switching, not us. And it’s mostly unconscious. It was in the 1920s that Carl Rogers, after spending five months in China as a theology student and witnessing the dreadful child labour conditions of the time, had his first major paradigm shift. Frustrated by his faith’s inability to explain and deal with...
Read MoreThis was the me I feared the most. He was the cunt. And in that moment I had a terrible realisation I was loving being the cunt. The road wound down a steep hill, past the lines of huts and the one-storey wooden structure of the old Esalen Institute Lodge. In his quest to understand the origins of our Western ideas of the Self, Will Storr, author...
Read MoreWhat the science of social pain is beginning to reveal is the dark error at the heart of individualism. In my extensive years living abroad the interplay between early social conditioning and our capacity to learn new behaviour and adapt to new environments have become somewhat more clear. Seven years in the exotically different culture of...
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