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If you are new to the world of meditations the first thing I would like you to know is that meditations are a secular, non-religious, practice that will not challenge any of your belief systems. All that meditations ask you to do is to breath in and out slowly, and to focus. There is an almost infinite amount of meditations out there, but despite...
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Is there a connection between theology, religion and psychotherapy? Yes, but the connection is an historical one, or one that is made by specific niches of professionals. The field of psychology springs out of the field of philosophy and theology at the end of the 19th century with the work of Wilhelm Wundt. Wilhelm Wundt wanted to turn...
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So what’s the difference when someone says to you “I am going to therapy”, or “I am seeing a counselor” or “I am doing therapy” or yet again “I am seeking counseling”. With over 400 official therapeutic modalities recognised by some federation or other institution just in the field of mental health, there can be no shortness of confusion among...
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EMDR is a new talk-therapy practice on the block. It is a new flavor of talk-therapy. During an EMDR session you speak with your therapist about particularly traumatic events and then, when you or your therapist sense that you are feeling strong negative emotions (often connected to a traumatic experience), the therapists guides you through a...
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All therapists in this world, whatever the instrument or modality of their work, aim at improving the wellness of their clients. Whether we do so by allowing the unspeakable to be spoken and verbalized, or the untouchable to be touched and sensed in the body, or the unfeelable to be felt and cried out, we all work to improve the wellbeing of our...
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‘Therapy’ is a colloquial word that stands short for one of the many talk-therapy based processes out there in the world, including psychiatry. Psychiatry therefore is a form of talk-therapy, but unlike psychotherapy or counselling it is empowered, or disempowered, depending on how you view medication, by the use of prescribed medication....
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If you ever thought of having suffered a relational trauma, particularly in your childhood, entertaining the thought of having been a victim of abuse would have come along with it. Let's have a look at some of the ways in which identifying with the position of being a victim can have negative repercussions on our
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Chemistry is a correlate of wellbeing and one that is rightly appreciated by psychiatrists and mental health professionals at large. Marijuana affects one’s mental chemical states in ways that have been studied extensively and the correlation between these effects and mental and emotional wellbeing are generally speaking not
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That evening then I approached the studio and asked for a brief session I was asked to lie down on a wooden box no taller than a thick tatami mat. Within this bed sized low box were some very powerful speakers, and in essence my body began being stimulated by a sequence of sounds that was pre-programmed. The human touch or element of my first...
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I had a customer once asking me this question within their first few minutes of talk-therapy with me: “Is my self-diagnosed trauma condition a mistake Nicolas? Or not?”. Not knowing much about this person I took a step back and said: “If your self-diagnosis has allowed you to feel like you are more in control of your own future, then this is not...
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If you ever thought of having suffered a relational trauma, particularly in your childhood, entertaining the thought of having been a victim of abuse, or ignorant behaviour, would have come along with it. While feeling like a victim is a natural response to trauma even during the first stages of one's realisation that we have suffered trauma,...
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In the 20th century, Western culture shrouded death in silence, relegating mourning practices and death rites to the shadows of our collective awareness. A veil was drawn over death, making it a topic rarely discussed, especially with the young. However, a paradigm shift has occurred in recent times, with death now finding an open channel of...
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If you are reading this, you have already kick-started your therapy! So before reading ahead, give yourself a pat on the shoulder. As psychotherapists and counselors we know that the client’s willingness to address their struggle, search for someone, and take contact is already a great sign of positive change, the very same change we will call...
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In all admittance, the first thing to say here is that a bad therapeutic alliance can occur and it can be re-traumatizing. That’s the worst scenario, but I believe this happens rarely compared to the number of good therapy alliances and sessions that occur daily in the world. Of course, these more rare events are the ones that make the news. The...
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The first thing I’d like to share on this subject is that phobias, although scary and seemingly gigantic in our minds, are some of the most treatable mental health issues out there. Phobias are a particular form of acute sensitivity to an object, person, or place. This acute sensitivity is not unique to those who have phobias, and is shared by...
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So… when we collect all of the studies done to date and run what we call a meta-analysis, we find that no modality has any significant advantage over another. Absolutely none! “WHAT????”, you may be asking. And “Yes!”, the truth is that since the 1950s research has been conducted to establish which, among the 400 official talk-therapy out there,...
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Of course it will! …if You will! We as therapists are here to support you in your own efforts to understand and make sense of yourself. We are much less here to judge or suggest behaviors, even the obviously self-destructive ones. So the first thing that will help you is You, your will to understand, your will to be honest with yourself, and your...
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In this blog we cover a therapeutic process focused on grief. The hope of these blog posts is to offer those who need therapeutic help, an opportunity to see how a therapeutic process can unfold, and by this allow some level of resonance with the process of healing. The present case concerns Inge and Erik, a Flemish couple in their 40s living in...
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We continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: SEEKING RECONNECTION Inviting Mom’s Presence I: I have pictures of her with me, so I can show them! T: Yes, if you’re willing to show her. I: So I have a picture of her [shows a framed black-and-white photo].
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We continue here from SHE COULDN'T GET OVER HER MOTHER'S DEATH: WHEN SAFETY WAS LOST. An Internal Dialogue T: That’s interesting [whispered]. Just placing your attention near but not in that kind of watery expansive place, not drowning in it, but just sort of standing on the shore, I wonder if you would be willing to listen to it? Listening to...
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WHAT DOES CLOSING THE CIRCLE MEAN?
Do you feel there is something emotionally left undone in your life? Have you closed the circle on your foundational experiences?
CAN DISCIPLINE BE PROFOUND COMPASSION?
Do you associate the word discipline with something hard and rigid, authoritarian and controlling? What if there was another kind of a discipline?
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