THE NARM MODEL

Science suggests that the more children experience direct and indirect violence the more neural pathways are created in regions of the brain that involve fear, anxiety and impulsiveness, which are responses that bring about further relational and or physical discomfort.

I met a man one day and he went into a very very elaborate conversation about the nature of reality, about the stages of evolution of consciousness, about male and female energies. He was literally mapping out the entire universe in front of me. Have you ever been in one of those conversations that is not a conversation? Where someone is speaking to you so much it is almost like a monologue? And you know what came up for me was "What is going on?". Because the conversation was interesting but we were not getting to the point. So after 15-20 minutes of him speaking endlessly about the nature of the whole universe, I said, "but what do you think is wrong with you?", and then there was a long silence, and then he just cried, and I swear he cried for ten minutes until finally he said "I hate myself and I want to die". I said "Ok, well, can we focus on that? Can we focus on that instead of the elaborate conceptual framework?"... And come to find out he had been molested as a child, and had used his mind to compensate and protect himself from the pain.